You can’t force someone to get help; however, you’re able to communicate your feelings and how the behaviors are affecting you. Communicate with care and in a nice tone what you’re concerned about and what symptoms or behaviors you’re seeing. Then share how these symptoms are affecting you and others. Then ask if he or she would be willing to go to the doctors to understand if there’s something more there. Be willing to go with him or her to the doctor’s if your spouse would like for you to join. Then share with the doctor what’s going on both physically and mentally. It’s important to share examples. If your spouse is unwilling to go, you may need to set up a boundary like “I love you and care for you. I believe there’s something more serious going on. I’ve asked you to go to the doctor’s, and you have chosen not to. I can’t force you to go, but it’s impacting our relationship and connection. If you’re unwilling to go in XX amount of time (I used a month), then I’m going to ask you to move out.” Of course, only say this if you’re willing to have this boundary. You can’t force him or her to change, but you can choose what you’re willing or unwilling to live with.